An Act of Kindness – The Rest of The Story
I was never aware of what impact I had over the years in my family until my youngest son reminded me of what I had done on an evening in a store called Woodman’s located on the west side of Madison, WI. I was out of work and I was busy supplementing my income by gaffing up trees, cutting them down, and chipping wood. A job not requiring a lot of intelligence for a man with 4 degrees. I was deadly tired each day.
My 8 year old young son and I were waiting in line to check out with our groceries. The man in front of us had a loaf of bread, a half gallon of milk, and peanut butter. The cashier rang him up and gave him notice of what he owed. He plopped down his money and they stared at each other for the longest 15 seconds I ever experienced. He was short cash to pay. As the cashier reached into her pocket to pay the difference, I dropped a dollar on the conveyor. She took it and he left just taking a moment to look back at us. 25 years passed and my youngest son Craig in a conversation reminded me of what took place that day of something I had long forgotten. It was not important to me; but, my actions had an impact on him.
What makes this story in the picture interesting on USA Today and Crooks and Liars is an adult white male taking time to teach a young black male how to tie a regular tie as opposed to using a clip-on tie. The young man was scheduled to interview for a job and he needed to look the part. The Target employee took the time to teach how to and tie the tie as there were no clip-on ties at Target besides tutoring the young man in answering questions a prospect employer might ask him. Do you believe this young black male will remember the kindness an adult male showed him one day? Furthermore, is it possible in the future this young male might return a moment of kindness to another person who may need his help as a result of one person taking the time to help him regardless of gender, age, religion, and hue of skin? I am sure he will remember.
Perhaps, this gesture is little more than a person who sees the other as a person of equal stature and makes the effort to reach out with a moment of kindness.
It is incidents of this nature a child will always remember. If you miss doing it yourself; you will miss one of the finer memories’ of you own life.
Unlike donations which soon pass from memory.
This piece is especially touching for me, because I know two of the four people in it. Craig knows what I also know, Bill. You’re a good person. And a loving father.
And I’ll second what Beene said.
There is a place for such stories here even though many of our posts are looking from 30,000 feet above the earth….it is still individuals that must concern us.
Thanks for the reminder Bill.
Dan:
Been negligent at AB; but, thanks for the mention.
Been working every other week in Juarez at the plant trying to get them going. Doing that “micro” economic’s stuff I do so well which so many macro-people fail to take into account in their analysis of manufacturing. Not sure if I will live as long as “Drucker.” By the time I get through customs after work, it is late and I get tired at 66.
I got a couple of things going and just have to finish them and post. Hope all is well.
Bill,
GBU.
Last Saturday I went to a Knights of Columbus charity BBQ, yeah the charcoal was out in the snow.
I had my son and his two little girls. Well the 18 month old loves to wander and she started a conversation with an older gentleman (for me now that is saying something as I am alos there) whom I soon recognized as my son’s old track coach (1997). I had spoken to him on occasion yers ago he is a bit older than I.
So we talked, and he came over and caught up with my son.
Good people in our live live on.
ilsm:
I struggled with writing this as I did not want the emphasis to be about what I did. The emphasis should be on what a complete stranger did to help someone, a younger person who needed help, to potentially be successful and teach him a life’s lesson. Intermingled between what I did and what the Target employee did is a story of how younger people learn from us.
“Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.” Goethe
Time will only tell whether this young man will learn from this.
Nemeste